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Jan. 4th, 2007

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I am moving my blog to blogger since LiveJournal does not allow nifty web-toys, nor does it allow non-registered users to comment (most of my family has no interest in getting their own blog LOL)

so, check for new updates here:

http://melissadrew-adoption.blogspot.com/

Dec. 26th, 2006

Seperated at birth?

Here are a few photos of us hanging out with the Nolte clan (JebNolte on FRUA) - they got back just before Halloween with the two older siblings of their previousely adopted little Ukrainian princess.

Don't Chris Nolte and my husband Andrew look like they could be twins! Its scary!







Dossier updated and in Ukraine

The SDA posted a notice, which was later confirmed by the US Embassy in Kyiv that they were indeed accepting new dossiers. The problem was that there were a bunch of new rules...most of us in the adoption community expected something like this since there was no conceivable way for the SDA to handle the impending deluge of dossiers January 1. The problem was, no one was sure WHAT the new rules were going to be.

The new rules included:
1. facilitators now had to hand deliver dossiers
2. facilitators had to call a specific hotline to make an appointment to deliver the dossier
3. facilitators could only submit two dossiers per month
4. all dossier documents must be valid for at least 6 months AFTER submission
5. a copy of housing proof is recommended to be included (read: required)

So, after a few days of frantic phone calls to our homestudy agency, an entire day of paperchasing and visits to the apostille office and post office, the dossier was completed and mailed as quick as the holidays would allow to our facilitator in Donestk oblast. I checked the tracking number this morning, and it left Kyiv yesterday morning for its final destination. So, it is ahead of schedule according to the post office estimates. Our facilitator has a early/mid January appointment to register our dossier - she was one of the few lucky facilitators to get through on this "hotline" and get an appointment. Many facilitators are not able to get through, and those that have gotten through are being told there are no more dossier appointments until March. Go us!

If everything gets to our facilitator in time and the SDA accepts our dossier with no issues, we should have a March or April appointment to bring Belle and Cinderella home!

In SnowWhite news, we got to talk to her on the phone for a few minutes thanks to our Ukrainian doctor friend! When we asked what her favorite subject in school was her response was "I want a bicycle." LOL Then she said drawing/art was her favorite subject, but only after making clear that she wanted a bike! She is definately my girl haha

As to her paperwork - I have every person I know in Ukraine working on it. According to the actual family code of Ukraine, the police report is NOT necessary for SnowWhite to be released for adoption. Since the bio family has made no attend to remove her from the orphanage system for more than 6 months, that is enough for the judge to terminate parental rights. Our facilitator is going to talk to the director of her internat at the end of January about this. The Ukrainian doctor is also going to call the regional police about the police report. Our friend G is also pressing on the detsky dom director to check on the police report again. LOL so they are getting seriously pestered by "my" people. the squeaky wheel and all.

Dec. 4th, 2006

New Facilitator, updated dossier, and visiting Ukrainian doctor

So, I never got around to finishing our trip story...I will eventually :) It has been SOOO busy around here. We have decided to switch to a new facilitator for our adoption - we liked Sasha, but he was not very pro-active and didn't keep us "in the loop" very much. Our new facilitator- Masha - is VERY pro-active and emails us almost daily! She is working on getting our two oldest moved to the same orphanage so that the adoption will be faster and easier. She also caught some problems in our dossier that we need to fix - better now than when we are in court in Ukraine! In summary, she is AWSOME.

We have been updating all of our dossier documents as they start to expire in January. Some of the documents are "good" until June, so we are going to submit the "old" documents while we wait for the updates to come in. When the updated documents eventually arrive, we will send them in to Ukraine. But, for registration purposes, many of our documents are still good. I'm going to the Secretary of State's office today to get all the notary stamps "apostilled" as that is a required level of authentication required by the Hague convention and Ukraine. It just verifies that the notaries are indeed REAL notaries. I also need to get our GBI state police clearance renewed. This is one of the first documents to expire in January, but it is a tedious process to update - I have to go to the GBI office, pick up the fingerprinting cards, take them to the Atlanta police department to actually have the fingerprints done, then take the completed cards back to GBI and pay them $30 to run the prints through the state system...then wait 10-15 days for the results/document. A lot of driving ugh.

We have also been busy preparing for a Ukrainian visitor! A pediatrician from a special needs baby house in Kharkiv Ukraine is staying in our home for a week and receiving training with Andrew at Emory hospital in pediatric neurology. I know of this doctor and his orphanage through two different charity groups - Life2Orphans and a smaller group called OrphanBaby. I've arranged for training for him at Emory, CHOA, the Marcus Institutes IA medicine clinic, and a trip to MedShare to get some free medical equipment and supplies


Andrey at an American "Cowboy" restaraunt!

Nov. 7th, 2006

Great article on Kyiv

http://www.jsonline.com/story/index.aspx?id=526728

Kiev filled with beauty, Orthodox history
By WAYNE SNOW
Special to the Journal Sentinel
Posted: Nov. 4, 2006
Kiev - There is something invigorating, a little edgy about going behind the old Iron Curtain to visit Kiev, ancient home of the first great Slavic civilization and birthplace of the Russian Orthodox faith.

It is not easy for Westerners. The language barrier is daunting and services considered normal on the more well-worn tourist circuit are non-existent or still in their adolescence.

Still, with a rich and often painful history that predates Moscow by hundreds of years and its cautiously hopeful future, Kiev is worth the effort.

Depressing Communist-era high-rises compete for a spot on the skyline with multitudes of graceful golden-domed churches. Old Russian cars share tree-lined streets with shiny new imports from the West. Beautiful parks are seemingly at every turn a scant 60 miles from Chernobyl, the worldwide symbol of environmental disaster.





Spring and summer here are beautiful, belying the fact that this is a city of the far north - farther north than Quebec - with extremely harsh winters.

Humankind has been harsher. Over the centuries, Ukraine has been overrun by the Mongol Golden Horde and absorbed variously by Lithuania, Poland and Russia. Josef Stalin engineered famines that killed millions in the 1930s. World War II took an additional 8 million to 9 million lives.

Today Ukraine is struggling to find its way as an independent nation in the new world that emerged with the breakup of the Soviet Union in 1991. Its political life is torn between those who favor traditional ties with Russia and those who covet membership in NATO and the European Union.



In two visits to Kiev in the past year, I did not hear people talking politics, except for one small communist gathering on a side street near the Parliament building and a larger gathering of nostalgic communists getting ready for the May Day parade. In both cases, the gatherings seemed anachronistic.

Instead it seemed much of Kiev was in love. It was spring, the weather was mild and people - many of them as couples - flocked to the parks and the vibrant heart of downtown around Khreschatyk St. and Independence Square. The city was festive for no particular reason.



On both trips, I stayed at Sherborne Guest House, a 24-hour staffed apartment building near the Dnipro River within easy walking distance of most of the must-see sites.

The apartment was a 10-minute stroll from the city's top tourist site - the Kiev Pechersk Lavra monastery. It is one of two medieval religious landmarks in the city on UNESCO's list of World Heritage Sites.




The Lavra traces its origin to the arrival of St. Anthony, who moved into a cave on a hill overlooking modern Kiev around 1051. Although most of the original buildings have been destroyed and rebuilt over the centuries, it remains one of the most sacred sites in Orthodoxy.

I was there for the Orthodox Easter service in April. The combination of the elaborate iconography and the beauty and emotional power of the Old Slavonic liturgy was an unforgettably moving experience. Although I would strongly recommend that any visitor to Kiev go to an Orthodox service, be forewarned that it is physically demanding. Liturgies are long and church-goers stand during the service.

Caves where monks lived
The 70-acre Lavra complex includes more than 20 churches, a sprinkling of national museums and an iconic 300-foot-tall bell tower that is closed for renovation. But its most famous feature may be the Far and Near Caves.

The caves are where the monks first lived and were later laid to rest. Tours are available in Russian, Ukrainian and English for a small fee. The dim light, incense, iconography and the preserved remains of the saints create an experience that is solemn and even mystical.

Claustrophobic tourists should think twice before going in, however. I am just under 6 feet tall and in some places had only an inch or so of clearance. There are many tight squeezes. With a line of people front and back, there is no easy way out should panic set in.

St. Sophia, located in the heart of the old city, is also on the UNESCO list. Like the Lavra, it has endured centuries of damage and destruction. The current incarnation dates mainly to the early 1700s.


It is most famous for intricate mosaics and frescoes by 11th-century Byzantine artists.

On both of my visits, there was a special treat. An old man with wild white hair and an angelic voice sat on a bench near the church singing folk songs and playing the bandura, a harp-like Ukrainian instrument believed to date to the 14th or 15th century.

A short walk from St. Sophia is the blue-walled St. Michael's Monastery, rebuilt and dedicated six years ago after its destruction during the Stalinist terror of the 1930s. Its bell tower is a great place to pose for pictures with golden domes as a backdrop.



Symbol in dispute
Perhaps the most striking of Kiev's cathedrals is St. Vladimir's, a 19th-century gem with a canary-yellow exterior topped by a series of blue domes and a single golden one. It is also an important symbol in the ongoing religious dispute between Ukraine and Russia.

Unlike the Lavra, which is still under the control of Moscow, St. Vladimir's is part of the break-away Ukrainian Orthodox Church.

The cathedral is on Taras Shevchenko Blvd. With lines of trees reaching to the horizon in a park-like median, Taras Shevchenko is a lovely example of one of Kiev's most memorable and surprising features - its wonderful trees - as well as a tribute to the nation's most revered poet.

Unlike many American cities, Kiev is exceptionally oriented toward pedestrians. At many of the largest intersections, stairs lead down to underground passageways, lined with shops, flower stalls, food markets and arts and crafts vendors. It is a safe and leisurely way to get to the other side.

The easy maneuverability is complemented by a very good and cheap public transportation system using buses and trains. I enjoyed the train stations, both for the mosaics and other art work and for long escalator rides down to the train platforms.

Kiev's tree-lined streets always seem to lead to a park. The city has two large botanical gardens - one across Taras Shevchenko from St. Vladimir's and the other south of the Lavra on the right bank of the Dnipro. The latter, the Central Botanical Garden, is home to another pair of monasteries and forms the southern end of a long unbroken stretch of parks extending for about five miles northward along the river.

The chain of parks takes in Kiev's impressive World War II museum and the giant Motherland Statue, skirts the back side of the Lavra, leads to Marinsky Palace and the adjacent Ukrainian Parliament and eventually reaches the Podil, Kiev's traditional merchant quarter. Marinsky Palace, built by Bartolomeo Rastrelli in the 18th century for Empress Elizabeth, is a blue-and-cream gem used on ceremonial occasions. It is a vivid reminder of Kiev's tsarist past. Although the palace is closed to the public, the park is open to all and offers panoramic views of the river.

At the northern end is Andrevsky Uzviz, an old cobblestoned street that connects the Upper City to the Podil. Russian writer Mikhail Bulgakov, a legend of the Soviet era, lived there and his home is now open as a museum.

Billed as Kiev's Montmartre, Andrevsky is home to museums, artists, musicians, restaurants and souvenir stands. This is the place to buy nesting dolls, traditional painted Ukrainian eggs, T-shirts mocking Lenin, old Soviet military uniforms and other souvenirs. It also features the quirky, eclectic Museum of One Street, which traces Kiev's history in fascinating fashion.

Andrevsky is a linguistic respite, much welcomed after the strain of struggling to understand Russian and Ukrainian phrases. Many of the vendors speak English, something not generally common in the city even at tourist sites. At the top of Andrevsky is St. Andrew's, another photogenic design built in the mid-1700s.

Its teal domes make it one of the most photographed sites in Kiev. I watched on successive days as three different couples had wedding pictures made with it as a backdrop. According to legend, the apostle Andrew, the patron saint of Russia, put a cross on the site where the church now stands nearly 2,000 years ago and predicted that a great city would someday grow there.

Nov. 3rd, 2006

Out of Hospital

Cinderella is thankfully now out of the hospital and has been moved to the orphanage medical wing. Thank you all for your prayers and good thoughts! I know that it made all the difference in her recovery. She still will not be able to come for the hosting program, as that is the decision of the local "sanitary committee" - not the orphanage director.

For those of you who did not get my email or see my FRUA post, Cinderella's orphanage had an outbreak of Hepatitis A, which is a food/water-borne viral infection. It causes tummy problems, vomiting, nausea, fever, and liver inflammation. In kids it usually has no symptoms at all and clears the body in a week or two. But since Cinderella has Hepatitis C (not active), it made her quite ill.

I see this as a sign/message that we need to focus on the adoption, and not bringing her here for a vacation. That money would be better spent getting her and Belle home sooner rather than later. Hopefully this will also send a message to their aunt and uncle that the girls need to come and live in the USA where they can get better medical care - and preventative care, like vaccines. Hep A has a vaccine, which these kids obviousely never got. That's like tempting fate - putting 300 unvaccinated kids in a crowded warehouse, there is going to be an outbreak or three.

The director of the orphanage gave us a list of medicines they are going to give Cinderella during her quarentine and continued recovery in the orphanage medical ward - two are herbal supplements - total voodoo medicine with no real evidence to support it- and the third item is an immunoglobulin shot which is what we sometimes use in the USA so that's at least medically reasonable. I just worry about them not using a disposable needle....many many times they use the same needle for giving "vitamin" shots to kids without changing or even cleaning the needle in between kids - they literally walk from one bed to the next sticking the kids. No wonder they have a high Hep C rate!

Oct. 25th, 2006

Update on bio family and winter hosting

So we tracked down Belle and Cinderella's biological aunt and uncle and our translator friend took a train down to meet them. The aunt is the sister of the girls biological father who died last winter. We learned the father, mother, aunt, uncle, and cousins names! What a great thing for the girls for us to have this info and photos for their life books. So many adopted kids never have any info on their bio family, so they end up feeling empty and disconnected.


Aunt and Uncle by their car, coming home from the hospital

The aunt is definately the leader of the family LOL (glad to see the girls come from such a strong line of women!)and she said that she wished to care for the girls, but due to her illness she is unable to. A German family that has hosted Cinderella 2-3 times also wished to adopt the girls, but they are too old to adopt according to German law. The German couple has met and befriended the aunt and they all worked together to come up with a plan to help the girls once they aged out of the orphanage....of course that plan was based on the assumption that no one would ever adopt the girls. Of course now that we have made contact and told the aunt our intentions, their plan is no longer reasonable. The aunt has not opposed the adoption, but says she must contact the German couple to discuss it since she is an honorable woman and had already made plans with them. Fine with me - I think they all want what is best for the girls, and what is best for the girls is to have a home sooner rather than later (8 years later if they waited until they aged out)

We also hope to have Cinderella here in the states for a winter hosting program. We are still working on the details with the host group but we think it would help the aunt and the girls know we are good people and that the girls would have a good home here.

We are also tracking the boxes we shipped to SnowWhite and Belle. I know they were put on the ship a week or so ago, and that they should make it to the girls before December. We are also still working on the paperwork for SnowWhite - it is so unfair to her to be stuck in that system for as long as she has and not be registered for adoption.

I will finish the trip report hopefully today - we only have Cinderella's part and our last few days in Kyiv to finish.

Oct. 24th, 2006

photos available again with password

I added all of our photos to a password protected album, so our family can easily link to and view the photos. If anyone wants to view our photos of Ukraine, the orphanages etc, please email me at mhemmen621@hotmail.com and I will send you the password.

Also, someone on the FRUA discussion boards had the idea of giving "our" kids nicknames in our journals instead of using their real names- at least until the adoptions are complete and the kids are legally ours. I thought that sounded fun so I've picked Disney Princess names for the girls! SnowWhite, Cinderella, and Belle.

Oct. 17th, 2006

photos locked and removed

Sadly to protect our adoption I have had to remove all photos of the girls. Its sad - there are enough issues with Ukrainian adoption from the Ukrainian authorities WITHOUT having to worry about being backstabbed by a fellow adoptive parent. I mean, there are close to 100,000 kids in Ukrainian orphanages alone (though not all are registered for adoption; maybe a third are) so why do we adoptive parents feel the need to compete with each other over a handful of kids?!?! In my opinion - the hosting programs. The hosting programs use this same handful of kids (not all hosting programs, but a few) for multiple families. Also adoptive parents want to have a photo of a kid - the whole idea of traveling "blind" is bad, but unfortunately its Ukrainian law. A law they need to chance in my opinion. I think referrals need to be known BEFORE the family travels. Why waste all that time in country looking for the right kid? This is not the kind of decision that should be made under that kind of pressure or under those time constraints! Families should be shown the anketa's of kids prior to travling, have time to think about it, and then accept a referral BEFORE getting on a plane. This would make everyone happier and make this whole process easier on everyone.

Oct. 16th, 2006

Paranoid

ok, I'm a paranoid person by nature, but I was trying NOT to lock any of my posts or be too vague since my family checks this blog and they definately AREN'T registered users....So I "sanitized" a few of my posts, and locked a few. I pulled out all names of the girls, translators, details of locations...

Someone on FRUA asked about the "dark haired girl" in my blog and did I have any info on her....she may have meant on of the many kids in the other photos - but me being paranoid was like "you mean MY daughter? of course I have info on her...."

anyways...I just don't want to jeopardize our adoption of her. She's not registered anyways....and once she is, she's ours so PLLBBBTTTT!!!! We've been working on her paperwork for a year now. We have a dossier requesting her (and our other two girls)- they will be submitted once the SDA says we can submit them.

I know this has been a BIG controversy on the FRUA boards - telling these known kids that you are adopting them - pros and cons etc. O asked me if I was going to be her Mama. Since that day, I've worked on doing just that - becoming her Mama. I've made sure that all the girls know that this is not a black and white process, that things could happen to make it take a long time, and it may not happen at all. BUT, I did tell them that they have a choice in all this. If they want to be part of our family, then they can say so - they can refuse other families (though it is not likely that our girls will ever be picked by potential families as they are older, except O who is still youngish), they can tell their director what they want etc. Its THEIR life!!! I know they are just kids, but most of these kids have seen more intheir little lives than most of us have seen in our long lives...and they should be allowed to have a say, FOR ONCE, about their fate - in an age appropriate manner of course.

will post more news later :)

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